Have you ever had a conversation with someone that somehow goes the other way and you’re left thinking, what just happened? It’s interesting, after a confrontation, whether it’s someone you don’t know, or a loved one…the mental doesn’t catch up to the physical.
When you leave a tough situation and there isn’t resolution, you physically might not be in the same area as the person you had it with, but your mind will continue to wonder and ply through different scenarios. Have you ever walked away and said, “what if u would have said this?”, “how would they of reacted if I did this?”, or simply the most basic question, “why did they act the way they did and why didn’t they understand my situation?”
Sadly our minds are constantly working, it’s a survival situation within your brain. It does this as a fight or flight mentality. It goes through the scenarios of learning for your survival. Whether it’s adjusting it’s learning to a different way to run from a tiger in the wild or simply altering your conversation with a friend, it’s constantly learning. Now we aren’t running from tigers anymore, but there are still many forms of anxiety that happen within our world. The tough part is that all of this stress in our mind might not cause external damage, but can cause major damage to your internal system.
If you don’t learn to control these thoughts and know how to love forward, it can affect your brain, heart, muscle memory, etc. There are people that study their whole lives learning how to control their thought process. It’s a challenge, think about the last time you had a stressful situation…did you forget about it right away? Or did you dwell on it for hours after and maybe even share your experience with others?
On the other side, have you ever meditated? Your first time meditating is one of the most challenging things you can do. Can you completely clear your mind from everything around you? I’m going to assume if you have, after about 10-15 seconds, your thoughts start going everywhere…my arm itches….what do I have to do today?…how long has it been already?….at least 2 minutes right? Let me check my phone…5 seconds!!!! Seriously?? That felt so much longer!
Does this sound familiar?
I used to be much better about controlling my thoughts and letting things go quickly, and you know what? It improved relationships around me. I took time to listen through the conversation and not just wait to speak. Now I get anxious when I have a wrong interaction with a customer in my job…and I let it dwell and dwell…
Give meditation a try, I’m going to head back to it because, to be honest, I’m thinking way too much! Life is too short to worry about the small things. Get out there and don’t think.